Let’s get real for a moment…there is a LOT of really scary shit going on in the world right now. No matter how much you try to avoid the news, or social media, or your doomsday neighbor, you can’t really tune out of what’s happening around us. Whether it be the myriad natural disasters occurring across the world, this crazy dude that wants to blow up the Universe, the largest security breach in American history, or whatever else is eking its way into your personal reality, let’s face it…it’s tough not to be afraid. I had a client ask me yesterday how it was possible to be so joyful in the midst of all of this chaos. Well, I don’t know if I have the answer for that, but I can certainly share my own process of staying sane.
Yoda (who in my book is the MAN and should run for president) said that “Fear is the path of the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.” Smart fella if you ask me. When we allow these fearful occurrences to dictate the contents of our mind, we start a downward spiraling process that is difficult to turn around. One fearful thought leads to another which leads to another. This energy shows up in the way we interact with the world, sparking more of the same in those that we encounter. YOU are the only person who can stop that fear in its tracks, and I’m hoping this little trick will help you do just that.
Our response to fear is natural, but that doesn’t mean that we have to give it control. When I notice myself getting sucked into the drama playing out on my TV or the fear being perpetuated on my Facebook feed, I take a moment first just to acknowledge it. “Shit, Jillian…you are freaking out right now! Time to shut this crap down!” I try to be compassionate with myself about it, rather than judgmental. After all…it IS scary when so many unknowns are catapulting towards you. I turn off whatever media is on or gently extract myself from the conversation at hand. I sit quietly and take a few deep breaths. I repeat out loud to myself, “The only thing I have is this moment, and in this moment I am here, I am safe and I am happy.” I try to remember that my fear will only draw more fear to me, and so being afraid is counterproductive. The best way to combat fear is joy and love, and so I begin to remind myself of all of the things in my life at this very moment that I have to be joyful about…positive relationships, my goofy children, a job that I love, my breath, my yoga practice, my favorite tree in my back yard, my dogs, my spiritual connection with my higher power, etc. I come back to my breath and typically, I notice an immediate difference. My breathing is softer, calmer and more even. I feel more centered and safe. I am reminded of the multiple reasons I have to choose to be happy rather than bind myself in fear.
So why does this work? I believe it’s because we are creating space between the trigger and the response. Rather than allowing that first negative or fearful thought to spiral out of control, we are giving it the acknowledgement that it needs and setting a new course towards a more positive orientation. The first few times you try it, it might feel fruitless, but, as with all things, practice makes perfect. Try, try and try again, and hopefully sometime very soon, you will find yourself moving into calmer waters quicker than you thought possible.
We are all in charge of the energy we give to fear, because that energy starts a ripple throughout the entire Universe that must reverberate back to us. Even taking baby steps to try to release your fear makes a huge impact on the collective whole of humankind. You are a powerful being…use that power for love, kindness and good. May the force be with you. (Yes, said that, I did. Mmm.)
To learn more about life coaching and how to start the process of turning your negative thoughts around, visit my website at http://www.jillianarenacyi.com