Every morning that we wake up, we are given a unique opportunity to approach the gift of this day from a place of peace that resides deep within us. In this place, there is no self-judgement, no shame, no comparing ourselves to others, and no apologies for the things which make us different. This is a place where we are fully connected to what makes us the fascinating, ever-changing, talented, powerful beings that we are. It sounds like a dream, right? Well, however elusive this magical place feels to you at this given moment, it may help to hear that it is so much closer than you think. Right at your fingertips, actually, and all you have to do is learn how to access it.
We are brought into this world relying on others. Our families keep us safe, warm, fed, and clothed, as well as offering us boundaries and rules. Our teachers, communities, and peers expand on these boundaries, educate us, and offer us endless opportunities to connect. We realize at a very young age the need for human connection, for without it, it would be impossible for us to thrive. These are all necessary steps on our journey through this life, however, a problem can begin to arise when we put so much emphasis on what others can do for us, that we forget what we are capable of doing for ourselves. This absence of recognition in our own abilities can lead to an extremely distorted image of self-worth. This is often where our paths begin to veer from all that we are destined to become, instead moving us to a place where we settle for wherever we are. This is the place where dreams are lost and life becomes a monotonous routine of daily tasks and disappointments. Not to say that we are unable to find happiness, but that our happiness loses the technicolor it once held for us. We find ourselves at a crossroad, where we feel disconnected from ourselves, without quite being able to explain what it is that’s making us feel this way. This is a time of choice. This is where we are confronted with the opportunity to access this place of inner reserve.
To our left, we see our life the way it is. The landscape is flat and drab, but predictable and comfortable as well. To our right, we see a mountainous terrain full of possibility and excitement, but also riddled with deserts of fear and unknowing. We know that if we take a step to the left, we are choosing to be content with our discontent, and allowing our dreams to slip further from our grasp to possibly be rediscovered later down the line. If we take a step to the right, however, we realize there is no turning back, for once we have begun to embark on this path, we will never again feel content living in the familiar. If we choose to go right, we are choosing a path of self-discovery; one that will surely be difficult and scary at times and which will definitely push us far outside of our comfort zones. We are choosing to shed our limiting beliefs and go in search of the truth that is burning deep in the core of our being. We fight back our doubts, and allow that nagging curiosity to win out…we take a step to the right.
As the next leg of our journey begins, our light instantly begins to burn brighter. We start to look at ourselves from an angle of interest. Our passion is reignited as we dig through the layers upon layers of conditioned responses that have accumulated throughout the years, only to discover little gems of our own personal wisdom buried within the debris. We begin to realize that we have been seeking outside of ourselves for answers that we had all along. We start to remember that we DO know who we are, that we DO know what’s best for us, and that we CAN trust ourselves. We begin to play games with the friend we have found in our intuition, testing its knowledge time and time again, to find that the more we trust it, the more keen it becomes. With this dawning sense of self, our confidence is boosted. We realize that we have something to offer. We start to understand that we are here for a reason and that life is not just some series of banal tasks that need to be accomplished. We start to take back the power that we have given away over the years, and the connection that we once desired begins to change shape. We no longer feel the desire to be connected from a place of lack or need, but rather we long to be connected to bask in other peoples light, to shine our own out, and to lift one another up as we each continue on our paths. Our passion is in full flame, and nothing can stop us from moving full steam ahead.
Oftentimes when we reach this place, we may feel the need to scream out to others, so sure that we have found the key to happiness. However, we must remember that life is about balance. Although we have found our way to higher ground, there will still be valleys we must cross, this time equipped with new tools to help us battle the shadows we find, both in ourselves and in others. This journey is never over. Each time we climb to a new plateau, there is another opportunity to climb higher still. Perhaps we even go back down a bit before we ascend further, hopefully lifting others up with us when it is time again to climb. You may even find yourself stagnant in one place for a while, but the best part about the journey is that you can never unlearn the things that you have learned along the way, and so inevitably it will continue eventually. The first step is simply to take the first step.
There are so many ways you can do this. Join a group in your community with the similar interest of embarking on a journey to their highest self, buy a guided journal, go on YouTube to access guided visualizations, start a meditation practice, or hire a life coach who you trust to help you navigate the journey (I know a pretty good one… AHEM). Whatever it looks like for you, take the first step, and I know you will be amazed to watch all of the next steps start to fall into place. Life’s an adventure. Live it up.